What Turns Guys ON?

Ladies … thought I would do a bit of myth busting for y’all. I know this is something we women ponder all the damn time:

“What turns guys on? Is it looks, smarts, personality? What?!?”

So instead of getting all coachy on you this time, I decided to take a mini survey of the guys in my life (both platonic and romantic in relationship) and share those findings with you.

Here it is, straight from the stallions’ mouths:

“Confidence trumps everything. If you feel hot, not that you are trying to convince yourself, but like really love yourself then that is such a big turn on. Looks are important. I know it’s taboo these days to say that beauty matters, because we’ve gone totally overboard with it, but I need to be attracted to my partner. However, everyone finds different looks hot. Also knowing what you want and what turns you on and asking for it and not being needy at the same time is a delicate balance. Open Mindedness is super important to me. Sex is all about being 100% as open, raw and vulnerable as possible.”

~ Aaron Steinberg, Life Coach, Oakland, CA – Check him out at Project Love 

“Looks. Outgoing looks. Colors and skin. Jewelry. Makeup. Confidence. In that order.”

~ Brock Harris, Silverlake, CA

“Smarts for sure. Looks too, but I don’t narrowly define what I think is attractive. I need to get along with the girl as well, so I guess that’s chemistry?”

~ Anonymous

“Turn ons (in general): Confidence. Warmth. Independence. Physically, in this order: Eyes. Ass. Thighs.”

~ Thomas H., Cardiac Specialist Nurse, Dallas, TX

(Oh and thank goodness for Thomas’ idea of turn on because I, like lots of women I know, definitely have ALL of those things – including the ass and the thighs.)

Basically after my research, this is what I found … IT ALL VARIES! Every guy has a different gauge on what they find to be a turn on!

There is no cookie cutter anything. What is one man’s ‘trash’ is another man’s ‘treasure’ and beauty definitely is in the ‘eye of the beholder’. Yes … I can get carried away with the idioms.

Turn On Ecard

So ladies, ditch the fitness magazines, quit the crazy diets and stop obsessing over your looks. Focus on being yourself, in all of your quirky, beautiful, amazingness.

Be you, be confident and most importantly, know what you want – both in life and in love! When you do, it will show and THAT is what will attract the guys to you like bees to honey! Promise.

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4 Responses to What Turns Guys ON?

  1. Michelle May 15, 2013 at 11:00 pm #

    I found that loving myself and feeling gratitude and abundance everyday – allowed me to be vibrant and attract an amazing man! It took lots of dedication to making that personal shift away from negative self talk…. But it has paid off…
    Let a man see your true inner beauty and enthusiasm for life.

    • Natalie May 16, 2013 at 12:17 am #

      WELL SAID Michelle! WELL SAID!! It does pay off and I thank you for being another voice to confirm that fact. 🙂

  2. Valter Viglietti August 2, 2013 at 12:26 am #

    “What Turns Guys ON?”
    Of course, the main answer is “IT DEPENDS!!!” 😀

    Think about it: if I ask “What Turns Women ON?”, do you have an ultimate answer, or it is (relatively) different for any of you? 🙂

    Of course I agree with Natalie: the more you like and love yourself, the more you’ll be likable and lovable.
    OTOH, if you despise yourself, no guy wil ever fix that for you.

    My last advice is: become what you would like to have around.
    Instead of obsessing on others’ taste, grow the qualities you would like your partner to have: honesty, kindness, being sensual, smartness, being witty, etc. Those qualities will attract men who appreciate and have them.

    • Natalie August 2, 2013 at 7:29 pm #

      I love that piece of advice. Be the thing you seek. Truer words were never spoken!

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