I believe that you are a unique individual, with a unique spirit, desiring a unique kind of life and love.
And, as a relationship & love coach, I know that no amount of generic love advice will help you get that!
The only way to create the relationships you want in your life is to figure out exactly what you want, then do the deep inner work that allows you to intentionally create and receive them.
Unfortunately, most women (and men) operate in their lives, and in their relationships, from outdated patterns of behavior that no longer serve them.
Have you ever wondered why you sabotage seemingly-good relationships?
Or fall out of love as quickly as you fell in?
Or simply keep meeting and dating douchebag after douchebag (after douchebag)?
Or maybe worst of all, deep down you don’t actually feel loved or lovable?
You’re not alone, my dear.
There are very deep, subconscious patterns and beliefs that dictate that sort of behavior. Childhood conditioning, past heartbreak, and limiting beliefs about ourselves and the people around us often lead our thoughts, feelings, and actions in relationship with ourselves or anyone else.
If you have ever felt out of control in love and relationship, it’s likely because you were. Not purposely, of course. But most of us have given our power away when it comes to love—we’ve given our power to our partners, our patterns, our pain.
It’s time to take back your power.
It’s time to do the work necessary to have healthy, thriving, amazing relationships.
Sure, you can (and likely do!) read the right books or watch the right TED talks, or even invest in the right coaching and workshops—but until you stop just “listening”, and until you begin learning and implementing these important shifts inside of yourself, nothing will change.
It’s not always easy. It may seem counter-intuitive. But it will transform your relationships—and your life.
And I know this firsthand, because I experienced it myself.
My father committed suicide when I was nine years old.
It feels strange even now, seeing it in big bold print, because it was a topic that was held under tight wraps in my family. So I kept it even from my closest friends—for many, many years.
Of course, it was a traumatic experience that both shook and shaped me to my core. It stirred and cemented long-held fears and feelings, emotions and energies. It activated an intense fear of abandonment that showed up in every one of my relationships (and, to be honest, still shows up to this day).
To say I was unable to trust men after that is an understatement.
Not-so-shockingly, I became isolated, closed off, and afraid of intimacy, especially in romantic partnerships. I pushed people away before they had the chance to leave me, and I attracted the emotionally unavailable or unwilling-to-commit variety, who reinforced a deeply-held belief that I was unlovable.
Add to that, this belief I had that my own needs didn’t matter and I was only going to be loved if I helped everyone else. I couldn’t truly let anyone in for a long, long time. Talk about lonely!
Because of these experiences, I always felt that there was something wrong with me, that I was broken, damaged goods—and that, as a result, I would never receive the love from a man that I so deeply desired.
Eventually, I learned to take the guidance I am offering you here today. I began to work on my relationship with myself; breaking patterns, healing old wounds, and shattering limiting (and untrue) beliefs about love, relationship, and what I was worthy of with regard to both.
I knew that if I wanted to have healthy relationships, I had to first have a healthy relationship with myself.
Just like you.
So I became much more aware of the areas that were blind spots and then did everything I could to become strong, clear, confident, accepting and completely loving of self.
And as I became more and more me—quirky, silly, passionate, and imperfect Natalie—more and more amazing love, relationships (of all kinds), and opportunities came my way.
Like magic 🙂
You can and you will fall in love with yourself, with your life, and with the partner of your dreams if you’re ready to do this work for yourself.
It’s never a matter of if it’s possible; it’s only a matter of if you’re ready to let go of the unhealthy relationship with yourself that’s been holding you back, and create a deeply loving, sincerely authentic, fully reciprocal and respectful relationship in it’s place.
If you promise to do the work, I promise to do everything in my power to guide and support you through it. That’s why I am here. I am a healer, teacher, and preacher of love. It is my calling to serve Love, to spread Love, and to remind you that you are Love. Always.
So no, I’m not going to give you even more “love advice”; I’m going to help you see what’s possible for you in love, and help you create it in every single relationship that you have . . . starting with you.
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Today, I’m wildly different than I used to be, from the inside out.
I have worked to heal old wounds, taken daily intentional steps to become the best version of myself, and I have loved myself fully throughout it all. I still work on this notion of ‘letting myself be loved’, but I have come a long way and can feel how different my heart is as a result – stronger, more tender, and open to having it all.
And my life now? I get to experience worldwide travel, fun, freedom, love, amazing relationships, and even more incredible work with women just like you.
I deeply and truly love myself, and love my life. And I love you, too. I want the same for you.
So, my dear, can we make a deal?
You promise to stop reading all of the generic, basic, “completely-unsuited-to-your-unique-and-beautiful love” advice. And stop hoping that your most important relationships (starting with your relationship to yourself) will magically evolve by themselves and overnight.
It takes work, of course. Work that only you can do. But it doesn’t have to be that hard.
This can and should and will be fun, love! I promise. I’ve done it for myself and for hundreds of other women and men, too—the process of falling madly in love with yourself, owning your desires, and having the relationships you deserve can be enjoyable and doable when you know the right steps to take.
And I do 🙂
I promise that I will guide, support, and love you through that work in every way that I can, incorporating not only my personal experience through this journey, but also nearly a decade of experience coaching other women back to the love they desire and deserve.
Are you ready for big change and expansive growth, love? Ready to create and call in the most amazing relationships? You are, aren’t you? I knew I loved you already 🙂
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My Virtual Course is the first step on your path to healthy and loving relationships, of all kinds.
I took all of the best tools, tips, exercises, and resources that I have used with one-on-one coaching clients, and put them together in a fun and easy virtual program. It’s affordable and can be done at your own pace, in the comfort of your own home.
Although it was created to serve singles in their search for their Dream Romantic Relationship, over time I have used it myself, and with clients, to look at ANY and ALL relationships (with friends, family, money, your career, etc). At the end of the day, we are in relationship with everything, so shining the light of evaluation on the past, and getting clear on what we truly want, will universally help those relationships grow.
This is the work, my dear. Let’s get started!
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If you want to do a Deep Dive into your Relationships, especially the one with yourself, then head on over to my Work With Me page to see what kind of magic we can work up together. I also offer 45 minute complimentary coaching and consultations to make sure we are a good match. Can’t go steady without the coffee date after all!
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It’s time to believe in love again, babe. Let me show you how.
With all my love,
Natalie Vartanian is a certified life coach, writer, and speaker/teacher. Her mission is to help people believe in love again. For the past six years, she has worked with women from across five continents to help them get the sex lives and the relationships they want, in addition to connecting to their passion work in the world. She teaches women how to love themselves unconditionally and show up as the feminine powerhouses they are, so that they can effortlessly have the relationship and career of their dreams!
She is working on self publishing her first book this year title “Sex, Money, and God.” Her work has been featured in YourTango, elephant journal, Good Men Project and Your Life Your Way She is also the creator of the Virtual Love Course and co-host of Sex the Podcast.