Taboo and Turn On http://natalievartanian.com Helping you get turned on in every area of your life. Fri, 18 Jan 2019 00:15:23 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.13 In this podcast, we have real talk about real things. It is where we shed light on taboo topics and explore what it truly means to live a turned on life. <br /> <br /> This will run the gamut from conversations with friends and colleagues, to answering listener questions with coaching and advice, to sharing my own stories around taboo and turn on! <br /> <br /> If you have any questions, suggestions, or want to submit a question to be answered on the podcast, please go to www.tabooandturnon.com and send a message via the Contact page! Taboo and Turn On yes episodic Taboo and Turn On natalievartanian@gmail.com natalievartanian@gmail.com (Taboo and Turn On) Shedding light on taboo topics and exploring what it truly means to live a turned on life! Taboo and Turn On http://natalievartanian.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/Taboo-Turn-On-Logo.jpg http://natalievartanian.com Revelations in Love, Scarcity and Abundance http://natalievartanian.com/2018/12/revelations-in-love-scarcity-and-abundance/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/12/revelations-in-love-scarcity-and-abundance/#respond Tue, 11 Dec 2018 22:25:33 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9825 Had a pretty profound realization as I was journaling last night and this morning that I feel called to share with you all, my tribe. My natural tendency in any point of contention within a close connection is to assume someone is going to leave me, simply disappear, or traumatize me somehow and then leave […]

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Had a pretty profound realization as I was journaling last night and this morning that I feel called to share with you all, my tribe. My natural tendency in any point of contention within a close connection is to assume someone is going to leave me, simply disappear, or traumatize me somehow and then leave me.

On the recommendation of a very smart friend, I wrote a letter from my fear about this anxiety thrashing around in my heart, as well as a response to my fear.

Once fear had its say, I then turned around and wrote a letter to my fear from Grace (aka Love). And what flowed out stunned me to the point of having to stop and allow for the words to really sink in. It felt like it short circuited my brain and had me looking at the entire situation with fresh eyes, eyes of unconditional love.

“This decision (to come to your own truth and speak your truth) is a decision to love in the best way possible, not to deprive, but to help thrive.”

Regardless of who is speaking up about what they need (myself or the other person), the knee jerk reaction has been “Someone is going to get hurt, if not both of us.”

I realized how much my blueprint of scarcity in love affects how I view and hold all of my relationships. My anxiety comes from feeling like “There’s not enough” or “There will never be enough”. And love is the thing I am afraid to lose the most.

I saw how I totally felt ‘deprived’ of love growing up, so of course it makes sense that I am a ‘ledger holder’ in relationships, or a score keeper of the times someone has deprived me. Versus all of the time I have been given to, helped to fill, to thrive!

That latter approach would be my natural filter if I came from a more abundant in love mentality. ‘There’s more than enough’ would be the assumption – that endings or change don’t mean ‘I may lose everything’, it simply points me in another direction …

Of more than enough, of gain, of a FULL, happy life, overflowing with love.

In the assumption of unconditional love, there is no separation, there is endless opportunity to grow deeper in love, to strengthen connection and to make sure every single person is winning … feeling loved, heard, cared for, understood.

My new goal is to practice switching gears from this old assumption of impending doom and destruction because deprivation is the only option.

The new gear I want to switch into is approaching every challenge from a desire to help the situation (and all players involved) to thrive.

Because the commitment is to love unconditionally and to honor the belief that we all deserve to be loved unconditionally and abundantly, including me!

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Musings on Risk, Turn On, and Regret http://natalievartanian.com/2018/07/musings-on-risk-turn-on-regret/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/07/musings-on-risk-turn-on-regret/#respond Tue, 10 Jul 2018 00:37:45 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9718 You know what the biggest shame would be? Not fully living your life. Not putting yourself out there in fear of possibly getting hurt. Not being turned all the way on. Not going after the things that your heart is absolutely craving for. Is it scary? Sure! Hands down!! That’s why a lot of people are quite […]

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You know what the biggest shame would be?

  • Not fully living your life.
  • Not putting yourself out there in fear of possibly getting hurt.
  • Not being turned all the way on.
  • Not going after the things that your heart is absolutely craving for.

Is it scary? Sure! Hands down!! That’s why a lot of people are quite content not rocking the boat. Not as many people opt for the super hero path … let someone else risk their life.

Because let’s face it … having your ass handed to you after you put blood sweat and tears into something important to you? Fuck yeah that’s scary and humiliating!

I’ve lived through at least three different scenarios of partnerships or agreements going south with people I really cared about. Every time I reeled back to a place of utter distrust and broken faith.

Also projects, where lots of time and money were invested, ending before the payoff ever happened. Even picking up and moving to a new town only to turn around and move back not even a year later. In these cases, I thrashed around in a pit of embarrassment, failure, and hopelessness.

Then there is the romantic risk right? To have to pick up the shattered pieces of your heart after you opened it full of faith and trust. Painstakingly frightening.

I still wonder occasionally why I keep putting myself “out there” when I have lived through three major heart breaks in my life (one of them included the short sale of a house). I’m not even 40 yet! Don’t get me started on the relationships where the recovery time takes longer than the actual couple time!

But what’s the alternative?  To only swim in waters that never ever move? No storms, but also no excitement. Or I could become one of the Walking Dead. Where I am a shriveled up version of myself … unrecognizable and absolutely devoid of the light of life.

I’ve already gone down that road and it is even more excruciating. As my mentor used to say, we just sleepwalk through our lives at that point, biding our time and counting down until we die.

To turn on, to live with passion and for passion, definitely puts you at risk of being burned. You are playing with fire, yet I think we forget how capable we are of not just healing from the occasional burns, but managing the heat so that we can create warmth, nourishment, and vitality.

Because of this amazing process of learning and growing through that trial by fire that is risk worth taking in my humble opinion. Here is another thing we easily forget or overlook … there is just as much of a possibility that things can turn out amazing when we follow turn on and excitement in life.

For us to feel the thrill of a goal achieved. To feel the bliss of true intimacy. To feel the utter relaxation of safety, and the heart warmth of connection.

I don’t know about you but I’m tired of playing the safe game. The one where I give my 60% and wonder why I don’t have everything that I want and yearn for. I have some things, but not all of the delicious and satiating things. It’s a watered down version of life … which I guess is fine if you like that sort of thing. You know … when you drink your beverage after all of the ice has melted and you barely taste the flavor of it anymore.

Something that stuck out for me when I was in leadership training 10 years ago was the saying that “If you’re not thinking of quitting, you’re not playing big enough”. I totally wanted to punch them in the face at the time when they would (in my mind antagonistically) remind us of this.

However, I knew on some level they were right.  I wasn’t playing big enough. I wasn’t risking or putting myself out there far enough to fail. I did all the things that looked good on paper but were polar opposite of what my heart desired.

When I stopped fighting my leadership coaches (and the whole program to be honest), I calmed down enough to realize my comfort zone was also my zone of guaranteed disappointment in terms of the things I truly wanted to accomplish or achieve. Cruising is dangerously close to snoozing … we gotta watch this stuff like a hawk sometimes so we don’t go down the rabbit hole of regret.

So can we make a pact? No more coasting and surviving friends. No more settling. Seriously. Who do we think we are doing a favor by suffering and staying small (and cozy in our immobility). 

Time for thriving … and that requires a life of risking. Trust me, your turn on will turn on those around you too. There is enough thriving to go around. 

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The Taboo of Sadness and Depression http://natalievartanian.com/2018/06/the-taboo-of-sadness-and-depression/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/06/the-taboo-of-sadness-and-depression/#comments Tue, 12 Jun 2018 22:52:55 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9715 Confession Time: I have been thinking a lot about transparency and how much is too much to share. Also, this notion where we don’t share our down days because we don’t want to be judged or perceived as weak. However the latest focus on suicide has me want to speak up even more around the […]

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Confession Time: I have been thinking a lot about transparency and how much is too much to share. Also, this notion where we don’t share our down days because we don’t want to be judged or perceived as weak. However the latest focus on suicide has me want to speak up even more around the taboo of sadness and depression.

So here goes my stream of consciousness share in an effort to be more transparent and honest. (Disclaimer: I am not sharing for support or comfort, but merely to normalize and be in community around this conversation).

Admittedly I have been somewhat in hiding because I am going through a bout of this myself. I have been opting for my cave over the world at large. Sure I have been social, yet my heart wants to close shop and go on a long sabbatical. (And that may be necessary as I contemplate a sabbatical from social media for the summer). It is a concerted effort stay open and connect when my natural Inclination is to protect myself and sort through my emotions.

I’m in a stage currently that some would call a “contraction”. It’s a time of being closed, inward, down, heavy, in pain. Not that unlike the contractions that happen during pregnancy. They are not forever and they almost always follow an expansion (dilation), which of course means that they are always followed BY an expansion.

But in these moments (of contraction) none of that is remembered or relevant. I definitely experience these semi-regularly, as most people do. Thankfully I have not reached meltdown mode in a while … it’s been on the milder side this time around.

Yet there is always a fear, with every contraction, that I am teetering on a treacherous edge … and I have no idea when something will snap and I go careening towards territory I may never come back from. I feel crazy in these moments. Wondering “What the fuck is the point of any of this?!” “Does anything truly bring us happiness or peace?” “Have we all been bamboozled into believing success and achievement is the only way and Love will come eventually if you work hard enough?”

In these moments I am tired. Bone achingly tired. I don’t want to do a damn thing. I can’t even fathom exerting any effort on anything that isn’t solely focused on maintaining my sense of sanity.

This place can be such a scary place. As the daughter of a man who committed suicide and also as a woman who has lived through the attempted suicides of two of her closest friends, I am extra scared. Scared that I may slide down that slippery slope myself.

This place, of sadness and depression, can also be so confusing. What do I need to do to snap out of this, if that is even possible? Do I take medication? Do I talk to someone professionally? Do I reach out to friends? Do I meditate and move my body more? And how do I do that when there is zero motivation?

I share this to be transparent. I think we ALL struggle and have so much shame in admitting this very normal and valid human experience. I do know in the past things for me do shift eventually, a lot of times of their own accord, on their own timeline. Before I realize what has happened, I am in expansion again.

Maybe it is the mushy phase between caterpillar and butterfly I am feeling … or maybe I am simply sensitive and feeling the weight of the world and my own community. Maybe it runs in my family to experience depression and there’s nothing to be ashamed of? Or maybe I had something really fucking shitty happen recently that has me tending to my own tender heart? Who knows?

Yet maybe if we had more compassion for ourselves in this place (the same compassion we would have for our best friend or our child or our nieces/nephews), the less suffering there would be around what I am coming to discover is a very natural phenomenon. And maybe if we felt like we didn’t have to hide our messy, sad, confused parts from the world, they would have more light and nourishment and love. We would get the very thing we crave and the very medicine that would help to soothe the hurt.

I am finding for myself with this latest round of contraction that compassion and connection (with myself and others) are essential and serve as the healing balm for my weary heart. I may not feel better per se, but I do feel a bit lighter, a tad more hopeful, and able to rest more in the knowing that I am OK, just as I am.

There’s no need to fix or change anything… Just to be and allow myself to be loved in this messy, insecure, and confused place.

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Fasties and Slowies in Dating and Relationship http://natalievartanian.com/2018/05/fasties-and-slowies-in-dating-and-relationship/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/05/fasties-and-slowies-in-dating-and-relationship/#comments Wed, 09 May 2018 19:55:35 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9657 When it comes to dating and relationships I have found that there are usually two types of people. And these types of people are distinguished by their speed in relationships. Fasties and Slowies. I, for example, am a Fasty! Always have been. My pace when I meet someone I like is to go all in, […]

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When it comes to dating and relationships I have found that there are usually two types of people. And these types of people are distinguished by their speed in relationships. Fasties and Slowies.

I, for example, am a Fasty! Always have been. My pace when I meet someone I like is to go all in, right away, and dive to the depths of our souls together within the first month! Hilarious but true! Ha ha.

The other type, the Slowy, tends to really take their time, be super discerning, not show their cards right away and move at a much slower pace.

Neither are good or bad, or right or wrong. They are simply styles I have observed in friends, clients, and strangers alike!

If you are of the same pace, usually things go a lot smoother in that you are on the same wave length.

Two Fasties will be happily moving in together within the first few months. Two Slowies are content waiting a whole six months to a year before deciding if they want to move to the next level.

Obviously this has its own draw backs since two Fasties can burn out fast not having taken the time to really get to know each other, and two Slowies may invest all of that time and energy together and realize it still isn’t working!

Problems, or shall I say ‘challenges’, usually arise more obviously when you have a Fasty and a Slowy dating or in relationship. It is a push pull dynamic that is very unique and can feel frustrating a lot of the time.

However I am realizing there is something to this opposite pace dynamic that is a blessing in disguise. Because Fasties do need to learn to slow their roll somewhat and Slowies need to learn to take more risks and not hedge their bets as much.

I currently am going through this very situation myself. It is an edge for me and so NOT my natural pace to go slow, however I am grateful for it.

It is allowing us to really take our time to get to know each other and decide if this truly will work for the two of us. It has me temper my anxiety around wanting to know NOW what will happen and trust in the unfolding. I know for my sweet Slowy I am probably offering an edge too where we are still diving in deeper emotionally then he is comfortable with but at the same time he is appreciating. I can see the future vision and possibility and am keeping us focused on that.

We are both lovingly pushing each other to our edges, to step outside of our comfort zones, and find a way to meet in the middle. It’s a dance for sure, and one that is so worthwhile if done in partnership!

Regardless of which type you are, the moral of the story here is to see if you can do a bit different.

If you are a Fasty, it may behoove you to slow down a bit, so that you can check in with yourself more and not get as swept up in the energy and the excitement as much.

If you are a Slowy, it may behoove you to speed up a bit, to not wait until everything is perfect and guaranteed before you act, so that you can open up to possibilities.

So which are you? What have you noticed about your pace and how can you try different??

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Never Too Late (to do Prom at Age 39) http://natalievartanian.com/2018/04/never-too-late-to-do-prom-at-age-39/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/04/never-too-late-to-do-prom-at-age-39/#respond Mon, 30 Apr 2018 21:01:47 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9727 This past Saturday I went to prom, for the first time! Took me 20 years, but as they say “Better Late Than Never.”  I actually didn’t go to a single dance during high school. The decision was partly my moms to protect me from being the young one in a sea of older kids who could […]

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This past Saturday I went to prom, for the first time! Took me 20 years, but as they say “Better Late Than Never.” 

I actually didn’t go to a single dance during high school. The decision was partly my moms to protect me from being the young one in a sea of older kids who could be very very bad influences on me.

But then at a certain point it became my decision too … The rebel in me kicked in, and I didn’t see what the fuss was about. I chose to spend prom day with my best friend doing all of the things we loved. That day will go down in history for sure.

However there was still a part of me that wished I could have had that experience. Fortunately the opportunity came in the form of a friend’s birthday party where prom was to be reparative and the theme was “Doing it right this time”.

So I asked the man I was dating at the time to be my prom date. Oh my gosh, he showed up in ways I never would have imagined. Literally in a way … since he arrived wearing a tux and his shirt matched the color of my dress (not planned at all! And burgundy for those of you that are burning to know!)

He was clear and vocal about his desire for me to have the experience I never had. That in and of itself skyrocketed the excitement factor of the whole thing. Yes we were acting like giddy teenagers, but also were mature adults who did not have nearly the amount of insecurities than in high school. There was a peace and ease to the whole thing that I highly doubt my teenage self would have experienced. 

He drove all the way to pick me up, which was not a small feat as the round trip driving time was 2 hours, not to mention driving to the prom location another hour round trip.

He brought me a beautiful corsage, which I’ll admit was more of a highlight for me than the actual time at prom! 

He treated me to a super lovely dinner where we engaged in some amazing, honest, and thought provoking conversations. Par for the course with us, but also there was something magnetic and sparkly about it given we were dressed to the nines.

He then escorted me to the party where we had a sweet blend of together and separate experiences, and ended the night with some super hot physical connection (aka high school style make out session).

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I especially appreciated the check in preceding making an entrance. He asked how I was feeling going in to the party. He then shared that his inner introvert was more present and how he was feeling protective of our time together, one on one, which absolutely melted me.

But he did immediately follow that by saying he was also excited to be going, and with me specifically, because he was proud of what we had created so far during our time together. So did I, so did I.

That evening, including that gorgeous moment of checking in, I felt beautiful, seen, cared for, and loved by this man. 

Thank goodness I was brave enough to ask him to be my date. That evening healed so much. It had me emotional in all of the best ways. He showed up so solidly and sweetly – the most amazing gentleman. It gave me hope that old fashioned courting was not dead.

Never say it’s too late to have a do over. Regardless of age and/or your past, you can choose everyday to have the kind of life that is most aligned with your heart and soul. I honestly believe that … for me and for you. 

We can try again, and it could be way better than the first one ever was!

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Episode 20 – Adventures in Dating, Love, and Intuition with Diana Dorell http://natalievartanian.com/2018/02/episode-20-adventures-in-dating-love-and-intuition-with-diana-dorell/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/02/episode-20-adventures-in-dating-love-and-intuition-with-diana-dorell/#comments Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:10:32 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9622 In today’s episode, we talk dating, love, and intuition. We dish the dirt about our own personal experiences in these realms and how to navigate the relationship waters so that you can maintain your sense of self, as well as be in an amazing love connection. So in this conversation with Diana, we cover the following […]

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In today’s episode, we talk dating, love, and intuition. We dish the dirt about our own personal experiences in these realms and how to navigate the relationship waters so that you can maintain your sense of self, as well as be in an amazing love connection.

So in this conversation with Diana, we cover the following topics and more:

  • Distinction between Intuition, Feelings, and Fantasies
  • The phenomena of losing yourself in relationship and how to counteract that
  • The beginning of dating (aka crack phase) where it feels like obsession and addiction
  • Approaching everything as an adventure awaiting you

Diana Dorell is a third generation healer, certified Angel Therapy Practitioner with Doreen Virtue, Ph.D, numerologist, Reiki Master and former radio host. Diana helps powerful women feel confident and magnetic in their relationships, starting with themselves! She’s the author of “The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again”, founder of the Angel Reiki Renewal Institute, has led workshops on how to trust your intuition all over the US and has been a speaker at the State of Now #140conf in New York City along with Deepak Chopra, Ann Curry and others. She’s passionate about helping people connect with their intuition and helping them have amazing relationships.

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Episode 19 – The Ninja Move of Skillful Violation with Ken Blackman http://natalievartanian.com/2018/02/episode-19-the-ninja-move-of-skillful-violation-with-ken-blackman/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/02/episode-19-the-ninja-move-of-skillful-violation-with-ken-blackman/#respond Tue, 06 Feb 2018 03:37:09 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9614 In today’s episode, we talk about skillful violation. I know what you’re thinking … what is that? And it sounds beyond wrong! Especially given everything we are unveiling around sexual misconduct and trauma. However by the end of this podcast conversation I was sold. There is so much to consider in our conversations and this […]

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In today’s episode, we talk about skillful violation. I know what you’re thinking … what is that? And it sounds beyond wrong! Especially given everything we are unveiling around sexual misconduct and trauma. However by the end of this podcast conversation I was sold. There is so much to consider in our conversations and this concept has us truly listen in a way we never have before. Skillful violation is edgy and it’s fascinating … and it is actually the thing that will help us heal and prevent sexual misunderstandings and pain. 

So in this conversation with Ken, we cover the following topics and more:

  • How it takes major empathy, intuition, and connection to practice skillful violation
  • What are the components or ingredients to even have the conversation?
  • Breaking out of current restrictions and old operating styles when it comes to sex
  • The artful delivery of a man pushing past a woman’s no to see what is actually there
  • The reality that there may be a lot of trauma behind the Nos for us

Ken is a sex and relationship expert. Starting in 1999, studying female orgasm as his full-time gig, Ken became fascinated with its effects on both women and their partners. This formed the basis of a new way to understand man/woman dynamics as a whole.

In 2007 Ken joined OneTaste as lead instructor and was one of the primary architects of a curriculum that shifted the world conversation around sex and human relating.

Today, couples seek him out to help them craft their relationship from the ground up to be fantastic. His approach is bold, unorthodox and highly effective. Ken’s book “Powerful Woman Confident Man” is due out this fall.

You can reach Ken by emailing him at ken@kenblackman.com – his website is http://kenblackman.com

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Episode 18 – Talking Porn Addiction and Recovery with Vincent http://natalievartanian.com/2018/01/episode-18-talking-porn-addiction-and-recovery-with-vincent/ http://natalievartanian.com/2018/01/episode-18-talking-porn-addiction-and-recovery-with-vincent/#respond Wed, 24 Jan 2018 23:04:14 +0000 http://natalievartanian.com/?p=9596 In today’s episode, we talk about porn. Mostly from the angle of addiction and recovery as shared by someone that has been on that journey themselves as a teenager. I chose Vincent to have this conversation with because not only has he gone through it, but in some ways he is an advocate … in April […]

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In today’s episode, we talk about porn. Mostly from the angle of addiction and recovery as shared by someone that has been on that journey themselves as a teenager. I chose Vincent to have this conversation with because not only has he gone through it, but in some ways he is an advocate … in April of 2017 he chose Porn Addiction as his topic for a speech contest at his high school and shared about it to a group of 40 to 50 of his peers.

So in this conversation with Vincent, we cover the following topics and more:

  • Starting to watch porn at 6 and not until age 16 realizing he was addicted
  • His 9 months of recovery which culminated with meeting a girl and falling in love 
  • Motivation behind watching porn – wanting intimacy, connection, sexual expression, love
  • The judgment that can come in from addiction and the gentleness required
  • Confusion around dating and how to be with intimate partners because of what you expect from porn
  • Insecurity that comes from always being the voyeur
  • Perspective that develops of woman is just an object and the man shouldn’t be more than just a penis

Vincent also collected statistics and research around Porn Viewership and Addiction that you can access by clicking HERE.

Vincent is an adventurer, student of life, space holder and writer. He’s purpose is to express his passion leading to connection and aliveness. In the process, he hopes to spark others heart, mind body and soul to come into their fullest expression of them selves and feel alive and fulfilled.

He’s currently cultivating and chasing the dream to travel around the world and work to attain mastery in martial arts by hitchhiking from Belgium to China and learn Kungfu there, in a shaolin temple for 1 year.

To learn more about and connect with Vincent:

If you are wanting to explore sex, sexuality, relationships, love, or any other topic help you live your most turned on life (even using Tarot to support in these areas), click HERE to learn more about ways you and I can work together.

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http://natalievartanian.com/2018/01/episode-18-talking-porn-addiction-and-recovery-with-vincent/feed/ 0 In today’s episode, we talk about porn. Mostly from the angle of addiction and recovery as shared by someone that has been on that journey themselves as a teenager. I chose Vincent to have this conversation with because not only has he gone through it,... In today’s episode, we talk about porn. Mostly from the angle of addiction and recovery as shared by someone that has been on that journey themselves as a teenager. I chose Vincent to have this conversation with because not only has he gone through it, but in some ways he is an advocate … in April […] Taboo and Turn On yes 38:33